Please help me and give me some advice i would like us to go back to have we used to be careless and just so in love again
Am really going through alot in my relationship right now and i think he wants to breakup with me, he does not even call me any more and when ever i call he gives me excuses.
You haven’t specified the problems in your relationship, and I think that if you could get him to sit down and talk to you honestly about your relationship, and try to work it out (without anger and accusations) – He won’t want to run away.
My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch and whenever I am mad at him, he comes back at me and says he wants out and doesn’t want to be with me anymore because he is unhappy. He begs and pleads that I let him go. And I stubbornly refuse because I feel like I am not yet done with him. He is currently on a two-week holiday in Spain with family and although he claims he hasn’t cheated on me or will cheat on me, he says the trip has made him realise a few things – he wants to change his job because it’s not what he wants to do but he doesn’t know what else he would do. And he wants to break up with me because he is unhappy and he has made up his mind.
A common friend said don’t take him at face value right now because these things are being said across continents and he will be back in a few days. But i don’t know, should I accept it and move on or should I fight for this?
I am tired of fighting for this, I think I put a lot of effort into the relationship and he has just stopped trying
I think that you should let him go. This is just my opinion of course. If you were meant to be, you’ll get back together, and it will be effortless. Life is not about fighting, it’s about letting go and allowing things you want to come to you, through inner peace and calm. I hope this helps and good luck!
Hi ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years. We have broken up a few times over the years we have always got on so very well were bestfriends infact. Ive been reading relationship guides recently and not sure if this is just making me paranoid. but recently i feel he is distancing himself from me. When i tell him i love him and he says it back i feel he doesnt mean it anymore. I feel as tho he takes me for granted but when i tell him he just says no i dont. Ive asked several times if we are ok and he just says yes and changed the subject. im finding that he prefers to do other things than spend time with me like at the moment he is cutting the grass and cleaning his car instead of spending time with me, when we have not seen eachother much for the past week and will not next week as he works night shifts.
Unfortunately, in my experience, a woman’s instinct is always right. If you feel he is drifting away, he probably is. When we feel this, most of us make the worst mistake – Which is to try either “talking about it” or clinging harder and harder from fear of losing the relationship. The best thing to do in my opinion is to give him his space. Try to focus on you instead of him, be too busy to see him too, show him that you’re not afraid and that you have a life other than with him. This will give him a chance to re-value you. If he is really planning to break up with you, nothing will stop him. But if he is not, than clinging, begging etc will push him further away. I hope this helps and good luck, Lisa